Ladies : No sex without commitment!
Because of the powerful charge of the sexually-stimulated hormone oxytocin, casual, non-committed sex can trigger a bonding in women that verges on physical addiction. A woman will bond to her man after one instance of good sex. She can stay bonded to him for a year or longer, from one sexual encounter. A man may feel bonded too, but he can easily go off and bond with other women as well. To alleviate this epidemic, try drawing a line and NOT having sex with men unless you have a commitment. This commitment is for continuity, longevity and monogamy.
Read MoreThe present moment of your life, when you really stop and notice it, is filled with constantly changing conditions. Yet, much of the anxiety in our lives comes from the fact that we cannot hold on to anyone or anything. How can we ever live happily knowing that nothing lasts?
In the midst of constant change, perhaps what must stop is you? Is it possible that the only thing that could stop is you? Could it also be that, when you stop, you notice and appreciate the amazing array of interconnections continuously maintaining your life and linking you with so many others?
Read MoreHow do we live more authentic and fulfilling lives in an Instagram world?
This is not your typical rant about social media.
Watch me get all spiritual ..
Read MoreWhy is it her? Why isn't it me? ... That woman in the grocery line with her little girl and her husband. It's not even envy, you're just wondering? Single people often ask themselves the question, "What's wrong with me?" The corollary question is, "What's right with her?"
Our culture encourages the idea that people searching for love have some fundamental deficiency that's preventing them from finding a partnership. So I ask you: Are your friends who are in relationships perfectly self-actualized human beings? Are they all their ideal body weight? Are they free of all their insecurities and neuroses? Then why do you think you should be?
Read MoreLove addicts focus almost completely on the person to whom they are addicted. At the beginning, this feels fantastic. Eventually, as Love Addicts try harder and harder to manipulate the other person to live up to the mental image they have created -someone who will care for and love them the way they long to be cared for and loved- they experience repeated disappointments, because no one can satisfy these insatiable desires.
Tragically, Love Addicts are usually drawn to Love Avoidants, who tend to avoid commitment and healthy intimacy because they believe that they will be drained and engulfed by it. Unconsciously, however, both the Love Addict and the Love Avoidant have the same two fears: intimacy and being left. Read on for a deeper explanation.
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